Author: rule62

Posted: Mon Jul 30, 2012 12:48 pm

My first addiction problem was to alcohol first and drugs second. Ended up finally getting the message in AA meetings although it took a good 10 years of slipping to get it.

You might want to try AA instead and if they ask you to identify just say you’re an alcoholic/addict and you’ll be accepted just fine. Saying you’re on Sub is a different matter. It’s been years since I was a newcomer but I do remember learning about the "13th step" pretty quickly. It means picking up sick newcomers for a relationship and I was instructed by my sponsor to avoid that behavior, which I did.

But wow, there is such a strong attraction to a sick young female from a sick male member it was very difficult to avoid contact. I did end up dating a few but it was after they’d been there for a year and even then the relationships crashed and burned. Two sicko’s = one huge sicko.

If you don’t like AA, go with another program other than a 12 step one like Rational Recovery. Or try a different NA meeting and tell the men "no 13 stepping allowed" and see if that helps. Or when you first go in try to get there a little early and get to know one of the women and explain your problem with the men at meetings. She’ll keep you under her wing. And like the others, I don’t think it’s wise to mention Suboxone until you have been there for awhile and know how the temperament is.

I am so sorry you were abused like that. The meetings are for recovery not for abuse. They forget the traditions and the rules of the group.

At least you landed here.

R