Author: Taurus

Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2012 7:06 am

This has nothing to do with Suboxone, but I thought I’d ask you guys since I’m already registered on this forum, and see if anyone has any advice on something I’m stressing on.

My boyfriend bought us a new $1300 bed a little over a year ago and it is already sagging a lot and hurting both of our backs. I told him that if we go to the same mattress store we could probably get a good deal on another mattress since this bed we bought from them is not that old and already giving us problems. He hated the idea because he doesn’t like causing "hassles" for people and gets embarrassed to be a "difficult" customer. He even gets embarrassed when I use coupons at the store. I tell him that’s what they are for and it’s not being difficult or a hassle…but that’s just how he is. He would rather not say anything and just buy things at full price (he isn’t hurting for money…I, on the other hand, live paycheck to paycheck…a whole other issue).

So I finally convinced him to go to the same store and we told the salesman this issue. He said the mattress is still under warranty and we could fill out a form and have someone come look at it, and they would measure the indentions in the mattress and if it qualifies and they agree that it is too saggy for a new mattress (which I know they would), the they would schedule to have it picked up and we could have a $1300 credit to get a new mattress. Well, my boyfriend didn’t want to hassle with it and just bought a new mattress…the cheapest king size in the store and said we will just throw the other mattress away! This frustrates me sooo much! That’s wasting $1300!!!

So my idea is what is stressing me out because I know he is going to resist and we will end up arguing…but since he got the new bed, I want to keep the old mattress and go back to the store myself and fill out the form and have someone come look at it and then I would take the $1300 credit and go pick out a bed for our spare room. I’m worried that the new cheapo mattress that he bought might be ok for his back, but what if I’m not comfortable? And even if I am, it would be nice to have an extra bed in our spare room, instead of just trashing the mattress and losing $1300.

I know this sounds logical, but my boyfriend is difficult when it comes to doing anything new or going through "hassles" like this. I am dreading the conversation and having to defend myself and try to convince him to let me do this. I know this is ridiculous. He is ridiculous and frustrating about a lot of things!

Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this situation so that he agrees to let me do this?? Sorry to be off topic of this forum, but I’ve been so annoyed and stressing since leaving that damn mattress store today and need to have this conversation with him before they deliver this new mattress.