Author: Romeo

Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2012 2:39 pm

TJ,

DoaQ gave you some stellar advice. She’s the one who taught me a lot of the techniques that I use in my recovery.

Recently, I’ve been talking about how "centering" myself helps me so much. Part of centering myself includes doing exactly what DoaQ talked about, letting the craving come, experiencing it and then feeling it pass. That whole process of going through a craving used to throw me so far off center because I would get angry at it, I would fight it and sooner or later, that would cause me to use. Learning to go through the craving while being easy on yourself is kinda tricky at first.

Learning how to use my "compassionate observer" helps me to go through a craving while being mindful of keeping myself centered by being kind to myself and being patient with myself and loving myself. I know, I know, it all sounds pretty goofy, but it works.

Don’t jump in front of a train, that’s taking a permanent action to solve a temporary problem.

You yourself said you felt like you were changing and I think you are changing. This process of change you’re going through may be difficult, but it’s not impossible. Hang tough, man.