Author: Ironic

Posted: Wed Dec 21, 2011 2:27 pm

Oh girl.

I know I am not your fave person, but I really feel for you on this one. This is one of the hardest things to go through as an addict yourself, at least it was for me. I love all of my friends so much and cutting off the ones that still had habits was really, really hard.

The way I had to think of it was if I saw or thought about a friend I was cutting ties with, I said to myself "I know you miss [insert name]. But (s)he isn’t here anymore, (s)he is gone. The person walking around town looking like him/her is actually their doppelgänger." It is true. Your friend is not the person you miss hanging with anymore. She may look like her but she isn’t there, and the only way for her to come back is to give up her habit.

I am also of the belief that you don’t need to say "forever," so I am glad you didn’t. If she really, truly decides to give up her habit, you’ll be there, and you made that (somewhat) clear to her by saying "call me when…" Unfortunately, this isn’t your fight, it is hers, and you can’t decide when she is going to rejoin the ranks of the deopiated. I wish she could go to rehab if she wanted, but if she wants to stop, rehab is not a requirement..honestly, all rehab is is paying $2,000/wk to hear "go to meetings."

I’m sorry. My heart goes out to you.