Author: stephent
Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 1:45 pm
Bboy42287 wrote: | ||||
Is there a such thing as normal drinking? I dont know how some people do it meaning drink booze cause they like the taste of it. If i drank i would drink to get drunk and that why im a addict i guess u can say. |
I love the taste of different craft beers, in fact I know quite a bit about them. I also know which types of artisan cheese to pair up with each style of brew. I age barley wines. I definitely enjoy the taste of beer. I also used to sometimes "drink to forget". I knew the difference right away. "Drinking to forget" is not healthy, enjoy a beer or two is fine.
Around 6th months it was difficult for a few weeks, I really wanted to have a damn beer. But I knew that it was not the right time and was a bad idea. Now with over a year completely off of everything except perscribed meds do I feel like I can have a beer or two sometime soon and see how I feel about it. I am going to wait until after the holidays though to consider this.
A major factor in me being able to achieve my definition of "sobriety" is due to making vows. I vowed to myself to not use anything at all for a year. Than after that I made a vow to wait until after New Years. I had to prove to myself that I did have self-control and could live life sober. That was difficult because for the first 6 months I was attending 12 step meetings almost daily where I was being told that "vows were not enough" and that I had no control by myself. At around 6 months I became confident enough to listen to the warning alarms going off in my head about how uncomfortable I was feeling with the whole 12 step deal. I also felt confident enough to develop my own "program".
Anyways back to the concept of "vows". For me personally, this allowed me to get through the times when I was around alcohol. My friends would ask "do you ever plan on having another beer?"… I would tell them "not right now, maybe later" and that was it. It also let them know that if I did randomly ask for a drink (which I never did) they could say "Hey, you told use that you wanted to wait till at least this long so no". Basically I knew that I was making my intentions clear to my family and friends. Furthermore, if I do decide to have a drink they know that it is not a spur of the moment decision.
If you do decide to drink after having issues with dependency I think you have to have the ability to be very honest with yourself. In my experience, it takes longer than one month to get over the denial factor. Just doesn’t seem like a good idea to drink that early, especially in a situation in which you can be pressured into drinking more.
Lots of people do not drink responsibly. Our society doesn’t exactly encourage it either (though it likes to pretend it does).
Be safe whatever you decide to do.