Author: pitbullmomma34

Posted: Wed May 29, 2013 9:00 pm

Tiff, I am in your shoes completely. I came out to my husband first, told him that I was an addict and then I called my mother while she was in Indiana visiting family. When I made the doctors visit, I knew that I would need help with the first month because my husband didn’t get paid until the next week and we wanted to get this ball rolling quickly. We went over to Mom’s and explained how I came to be like this and what we are going to do about it and she "seemed" to understand at first. As time went on and I kept going to the doctors appointments, she quit understanding at all. She acts now like its a way for me to get attention, there are people that I have told along the way and when I run into one of them with Mom I will tell them how I am doing. Its like she gets upset that I am doing so well. She doesn’t understand or care to even go to a meeting, read any type of information, watch any videos NOTHING. She thinks that it is completely stupid for me to pay 300 dollars a month ( cant get insurance unless I pay 500 a month for it) for a doctors visit and the money that we pay for the medicine. She had the nerve to come out and say well, you should stop going to that doctor and put that money towards a car payment or a house payment. My husband was sitting in the backseat of the van and said as long as she is healthy and not sick or a slave to pills, she is going to that doctor. Now that my doctor will let me go every other month, things will be a lot cheaper and different. She still doesn’t care, she wants that money that I use to go to the doctor for her benefit. TO show just how she is, when it came time for my husband to start getting checks she wanted me to give her our check every other week so she could distribute our money out to us. When my first husband and I were together, she tried everyway in the world for me to file income taxes the first year with them and they would give me the difference come to find it out they were shorting us out of 500 dollars and knew about it. Her car that she is trying to sell, she offered it to us for 2500 dollars and is nowhere worth it, her grandson got it scott free and our vehicle is in much worse shape than the one that he was driving.
She does things like this for no apparent reasoning. She is getting more and more greedy by the day. She doesn’t care for anyone but the one that she lives with and his kids/grandkids. I asked her back last week to borrow her vehicle and I would put the gas in it, she said ok because they were going out of town and we had to watch the house anyways. Well, the night before I call to make sure and she claims that she is taking some kids to the gravestone of their great grandfather. I told her well you knew that I needed the van, I was just calling to reassure that I had to go tomorrow and she stuttered around and told us well you can drive Tylers truck which is the vehicle that he left at home and took her car. Mothers are weird, mine is especially. I completely understand what you are going through, if I go to speak about anything with my doctor or medicine she changes the subject completely. She will either get up and leave the room or just talk about something else. It is extremely hurtful, I feel like I am doing well and she will not even acknowledge it. Sorry for going on, I have a lot of anger towards my mother.